Why do we need intimacy in our relationships?
Human beings crave closeness in various ways. One of the most common ways is through relationships. Closeness in relationships can be achieved through the creation of intimacy because intimacy means closeness.
Basically, we need intimacy in our relationships because it’s a key part of maintaining them. Sounds like a vicious cycle, doesn’t it?
How do we create intimacy in our relationships?
Most people think intimacy means sex. Sex is very vital in a relationship and helps to create intimacy; however, intimacy is so much more than just sex.
Like most components of relationships, creating intimacy takes time. It doesn’t magically happen over night, especially at the start of a relationship. In the beginning everything is new and awkward.
The best way to start creating intimacy is through communication. You are probably used to being single, but now you have someone else’s thoughts and feelings to consider. Talk to your partner and get to know them. Work on slowly moving away from only regarding yourself towards involving him or her too. Once this fundamental step towards intimacy starts, it’ll keep a natural flow and the awkwardness will ease away.
How do we continue creating intimacy?
Now it’s time to think about how to expand on the foundation you’ve built. Here is a list of ideas on how to continue creating intimacy throughout the relationship.
Share new adventures together
New adventures can be scary. Share them with your partner to ease your worries, and it will bring you closer. Most likely you’ll end up loving it and happy your partner was there to experience it with you.
The feel of someone else’s touch often has a relaxing or euphoric effect. Physical contact through touching, kissing, hugging, and sex definitely spices things up and creates it’s own unique form of intimacy.
Communicate needs and wants
This has to be a constant practice in your relationship. Needs and wants get frequently overlooked and overshadowed by other priorities. Sitting down and having a serious chat about this will generate tons of intimacy through honesty and shared values. If it doesn’t then you might need to reevaluate why you’re with him or her because you might want different things in life and love.
Read to each other
I’m a huge fan of books and reading, so this one really inspires me. It’s one thing to read your own separate books together in bed at the end of the night, but it’s another to actually read the same book together. This might establish mutual interests in the same books as well as more snuggle time. What’s more intimate than that?
Teach your partner something new and vice versa
It could be a new skill or hobby like showing him or her how to shop on a budget or hiking local trails. This also builds patience and trust along with intimacy in your relationship. Just remember not to get too frustrated with your partner if they struggle to learn it. (Yes, I am definitely talking from experience!)
Every happily intimate couple I know loves to travel, so this one always seems to work. Plan a vacation together and see where the world’s adventures take you.
There’s loads of other activities which can strengthen intimacy. If you didn’t enjoy any of the ones I listed, try to come up with your own. Then, let me know by sharing in the comment section below.